Soob

Politics, Foreign Policy, Current Events and Occasional Outbursts Lacking Couth

Friday, November 23, 2007

Reality Looms

It's funny, I sit here and contemplate a loss that is not my own and yet, for what ever reason, I'm completely befuddled. At a loss as to how I should feel, moreover how I should act. The phone call was made, the promise of "anything I can do" laid forth the shallow and yet somehow compulsive "apologies" made. But what now?

We were and are a fraternal trio, a bond formed during the bright and endless years of our childhood. We'd suffered the emotional horror's of childhood's locomotion into adulthood together, shared the deepest and darkest of ourselves and could (and can) communicate a thought or emotion through a simple glance or off handed gesture.

Remove the genetic aspect and we are, by otherwise definition, brothers. Adulthood separates us only through the physical reality of distance and, despite sworn fraternity during our late childhood, the painful aspect of three branches growing in different directions.

The fact remains when we all three meet the weight of reality peels away and there remains an essence of timelessness. And this essence is as delicious as it is fleeting. Gone too soon as we meander back into our respective life endeavors.

We'll meet again sometime this week, and the rendezvous won't be the usual celebration, rather a morose and sad affair as we will be memorializing the death of the second of our fathers in the last two years. The first last year, the second just yesterday.

Two fine men gone in as many years. Two gone and both to be celebrated for their excellence as men, Vietnam veterans and, more importantly, Fathers.

Godspeed Tom Calahan II.

Godspeed Pappi DeBacco

You're both the essence of excellence.

6 comments:

A.E. said...
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A.E. said...

Soob,

Even if it isn't your own loss, it hurts all the same--and in the end that's what matters. Take care, and know that my thoughts are with you.

Best,

Adam

subadei said...

Thanks Adam

deichmans said...

Soob,

I am sorry for you loss. Kahlil Gibran wrote when we lose a friend, that which we love most in them becomes more apparent -- just as the mountain is clearer to the climber from the plain.

In your reflections, I hope that the friendship and mentorship Tom and Pappi gave to you will continue to influence your life.

Best,

shane

subadei said...

Such events cause me to contemplate the mortality of my own father. Selfish, perhaps, but then there it is. Accepting the plausibility that someday (barring some accident or disease afflicts me) I and my excellent fraternal brother will have to come to terms with the situation my other "brothers" have (or our friend Dan has) seems impossible. I think I'd sooner come to terms with my own demise.

Life is as cruel as it is beautiful, isn't it?

subadei said...

Heh, forgot to thank you, shane.